talking – Diary of a working mom

Yiepsie,

Your child is your wealth and pride. So you must teach him manners and it should be started at an early age.

Teach him about right and wrong. Put efforts to make your child a good person instead of a successful one. Any child can be successful but only a well-taught and well-mannered child will become a good person.

Sometimes a child’s tender age and innocence do not allow him to listen to his parents. Thus parents must teach him mannerism by putting their all efforts.

I believe that while dealing with children one parent should be strict and the other should be lenient or they can take turns in becoming strict and lenient. If both parents are strict then it will lead to fear, rebellion, anger, depression. If both parents are lenient then your child will become underachiever, will lack confidence during tough times and overprotectiveness will become their weakness.

These days the scenario is that parents pamper their child a lot. They do not hurt his emotions. This is wrong, as the early, your child gets hurt emotionally early he will be ready for the world. Start telling him the truths of life at a young age.

Teach etiquettes to your child politely with a cool mind. Give him examples of great and well-known people. But never compare your child with others, not even with siblings. Teach him how to be polite, respectful, how to eat, how and when to say sorry and thank you, how to share, etc.Teach them not to argue, not to be obsessive, arrogant, mean, jealous, do not misbehave, etc.

Instead of teaching and saying things to a child, parents should set an example by practicing good manners as I believe that

Actions speak louder than words.

KIDS AND WORKING MOTHERS # LISTENING TO CHILD

Yiepsie

Famous author CINDY CASHMAN said,

When you talk to your child, mostly listen.

The child and mother share an unbreakable bond. He depends on his parents especially his mother, emotionally throughout his life. I must say that it is in the hands of the mother to make this bond stronger day by day.
The easiest way is that your child must expose his heart to you. And this can only be done when he talks and you listen.
Start listening to your child from a young age. His small talks are mesmerizing. The words he uses at this age remain in the heart of the mother throughout her life.
When schooling starts your child experiences new things. Listen to your child what he tells about his class, teachers, friends, bus, etc. Remember the name of his friends. Ask about them frequently. Listen to them also when they visit you. Cherish their talks.
Calm Asian little children hugging mother while woman patting kids on heads
The more you listen, the more he will tell. Listen to his successes and failures, Laugh on his jokes. Console when he cries. Soothe him when he is jealous.
Your child should consider you his best friend especially when he is a teenager. Because this is the age of hormonal changes. Lot is going on in a child’s mind. But your presence in this life relieves his pressure of hormonal imbalance.
Once the child becomes adult he will definitely remember how his mother used to listen to him. Then no doubt he will consider this time as one of the best times of his life.